Before I got sober at the age of 55, I was trapped by an ice storm at an abbey near Dubuque, in NE Iowa. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. […]
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. That’s Step 4, perhaps the scariest few words Bill W strung together in this 12 Step program. It seems to me […]
It’s 12 Steps, not 2. The Old Timers I love and respect are those who have serenity gained from taking all 12 and continuing to live in the principles.
The truth will set you free, to the extent that you recognize it and cooperate with it.
Mary Johnson befriended the man who murdered her only son and then invited him to come live next door
I had an epiphany yesterday. I’ve recently bought a new fifth wheel and requisite dually. Along with that comes more room to live and more financial pressure. (Did you catch […]
The Red Bird is the iconic bird that appears on the app icon and is the first one you’ll see in the beginning levels. Typical. They would have to be […]
The games of Angry Birds and Angry Words are both frustrating and fascinating time drains. Whether you are a wet alcoholic (still drinking) or a dry alcoholic (not drinking or […]
So when AA suggests a fearless moral inventory, it must seem to every newcomer that more is being asked of him than he can do. Both his pride and his […]
I was focusing on the problem, not the solution.
What I wanted was for God to solve my unhappiness. When that didn’t happen I did a number of things that made me feel worse!
I was deceived by the Little Engine That Could!
What do you want to be remembered for when you die?
I desperately wanted answers to life. I knew only God had them but how would I get them?
A. You accept where you are by facing the reality of your relationships. We’re still working on Step 1 and assessing reality. The first part of that is looking at […]
A. You accept where you are by facing the reality of your situation. Think of the sides of the triangle as 3 warehouses of one-liners. Try to recall a discussion […]
A. You accept where you are by facing the reality of your situation. Do you agree that facing reality can be like grieving? I’ve had friends grieve the loss of […]
I have voluntarily given my liberty to God. I am not going to voluntarily give that liberty to anyone else ever again. I tried that and inevitably it led to […]
Our homes have been battle grounds many an evening. ~ AA p 105 As I stated previously, besides being an alcoholic in recovery, I am a survivor of abuse. Therefore, […]
Is he not a victim of the delusion that he can wrest satisfaction and happiness out of this world if he only manages well? Is it not evident to all […]
Welcome to life with an alcoholic! Life with a dry (not sober) alcoholic is a challenge. I should know, I’m a recovering alcoholic and I’m still a challenge. Before I […]
Lies and deceitful games have nothing to do with the shared reality and richness of intimacy. True intimacy in relationships is reserved for people who are determined to hear and […]
I then did what any self-respecting mom would do. I called the kid.
When I think of alcoholics I think of the ones around the tables. I realize you might not see us like I do. Maybe your mental picture of an alcoholic […]
This is the final post in the series of Becoming Your Own Counselor. Personally, I’ve not had any progress in personal or spiritual growth that can be traced back to […]
Retreating seems like a strange way to make progress in life, doesn’t it? We usually associate the following with making progress: doing research on the topic, analyzing the problem, making […]
To become your own counselor you will be filling your life and thoughts with wisdom from God instead of allowing others to control your life and define you. This is […]
This picture is one Debbie took at OLM in Iowa while she was on retreat at the Stone House. Once you’ve located your retreat spot and made reservations, there are […]
When my best friend turned 40, our Bible Study group gave her an unconventional present, but one that I feel was divinely inspired. On the given week, she was told […]
I’ve been talking to someone who just got out of an abusive relationship. What amazes me is that she’s out because she finally stopped listening to paid professionals, stopped listening […]
Don’t mess with me, buddy!
I realize now that picking up a drink isn’t where the relapse starts.
Only after forgiving myself and others, can I begin to accept everyone else.
My step 9 destiny all started when I was born with red hair.
The program works. It really does. It works even when I’m not doing it perfectly.
I’m not going to write about this. Am I? I
What is surprising to me, at almost 60, is that all those same character defects that got me in trouble at age 6, still tries to pull me into trouble at this age.
The healing necessary for life’s pain comes through taking the 12 steps.
I can choose to let people say things that I don’t agree with or I don’t like and just let it go.
This is in response to the Normie question from my Saturday post. Most alcoholics have a desire to be unique. I thought I was unique because I was suicidal or […]
To be disappointed in one’s self is to have hoped in one’s self.
It’s like someone else has my remote!
I try to be subtle, find a handy escape route…a way off the party bus.
I love step 6. It’s like getting a new life:
I’m thinking of doing a routine Saturday variation. Today is typically the low point in the statistics for the week concerning views. So why not mix it up a bit! […]
We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show… Page 88 Why constantly? Because we alcoholics are going to regress when it comes to this principle. Not running […]
What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration becomes a working part of your mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is […]
We’ve looked at the typical alcoholic motives and asking God to remove them even before praying. It’s early in the morning and our thoughts turn to the activities of the […]
When I wake up I usually hop out of bed. I don’t lounge. That’s because I’m a morning person. If you’re already saying, ‘one of those’ then you may not […]