Step 1: Raising The White Flag
When I first quit drinking, I had a friend in AA that would wish ‘pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization’ on his drinking buddies.
Tag Archives: acceptance
Relationship Issue Has You Stumped?
This is true. There was a woman who found out from her mom that she’d been disinherited and the topic was skirted over like it shouldn’t be any big […]
Can I Weep With Those Who Weep?
I’m not loving you if I try to brush aside your tears
Step 1: How Do I Start?
You don’t have to be an addict or even know one to take the 12 Steps
What Is God’s Will?
I no longer feel I have to ‘prove’ anything to you or to me
Cupcakes and Sweet Security
A month into Al-Anon I find that I am losing my job.
Little Fists Solution
Little Fists happen when I start to criticize myself.
Step 4: Column 4 Ya But…
Ya but… (wheeze) the other guy is the problem! You’re just the victim, here.
Step 4: Are You A Friend Among Friends?
I was not. I’m still learning. At one time I thought I had the perfect life but it was built upon the proverbial shifting sand of illusions about myself. The […]
Unconflicted and Better Than a Hallelujah
I agree with Chaz and his Unconflicted post. I am unconcerned about Bill’s personal life. He was a tool for getting the Biblical principles into our hands. I was not […]
Forgiveness: One Weird Old Tip
If rejection were a mask it would be cruel, soulless and rigid: dead eyes and a mouth locked into a sneer.
What’s Your Struggle?
How do you feel about being an addict, co-dependent or having cancer? I’ve been asking this question and my favorite answer so far is below. Even though this dear friend […]
Batter-y-up!
Given that the word why is used over 90 times in the Big Book of AA and in the 12×12, I assume it’s a big question for a lot of us.
Bootstraps or Pigtails
When new to recovery it is a good idea to locate some trusted friends. The kind that will not hesitate to call us on our self-absorption, our rationalizing attitudes and […]
Stop! Go!
Can I even think my way out of a paper bag? Nope.
Unhappiness: Part 2 Gerbil Wheel
I was focusing on the problem, not the solution.
Unhappiness: Part 1 The Way Out
What I wanted was for God to solve my unhappiness. When that didn’t happen I did a number of things that made me feel worse!
Unique Self: Part 8 The Little Engine Meets Reality
I was deceived by the Little Engine That Could!
Unique Self: Part 7 – I Think Not
When I was little there was a book and a song about the Little Engine That Could. I realize the intent was to eliminate negative self-talk. But AA has taught […]
Unique Self: Part 5 Perception Prisms A
In the Summer of 2008 I was sitting in a chapel beside a stain glass window that shed golden tones over my face, my hair and my hands clasped in […]
Unique Self: Part 1 This Addict’s Dark Side
I desperately wanted answers to life. I knew only God had them but how would I get them?
Step 1: Grieving
A. You accept where you are by facing the reality of your situation. Do you agree that facing reality can be like grieving? I’ve had friends grieve the loss of […]
The Case for Honesty
Truth is truth. Millions of people can attest to the fact that the AA program works just as well for those who are stuck in life as it does for […]
How Can A Church Compete With AA for Acceptance?
Only after forgiving myself and others, can I begin to accept everyone else.
