Start by listing the people you have resentments against.
The very churning of my gut and lack of ability to feel any deep peace are the stereo alarms of my body and heart.
This is true. There was a woman who found out from her mom that she’d been disinherited and the topic was skirted over like it shouldn’t be any big […]
Need to clear up the past with someone?
She said, “Heidi, I don’t know why anyone calls you when they’re having problems.”
Nearly any day contains prime resentment opportunities.
After cleaning out my wheelhouse I find I’m a little lonely…
So, what’s wrong with being a Tattletale?
I’m a Fighter from a long line of Fighters. I don’t know what happens to you when you’re angry…
Now that we have the first column naming people, institutions and principles we can move on to the second column. (Refer to the Not Scary Resentments Worksheet of Step 4 in […]
Do you have an inexplicable feeling of pending doom? Do you feel deep down lonely…
Take a good look at anything that riles you. What are your pet peeves?
Everything was dirty, broken, piled up and rusty. I kept gagging…
There is something in me that rebels against familiar authoritarianism. Do I really want someone else to tell me what to think again? I hope not.
You call it love. For years, all I wrote was bad, tragic and tearful poetry. Then life got better because I got sober and I gave up poetry. Suddenly, this […]
The truth will set you free, to the extent that you recognize it and cooperate with it.
The Red Bird is the iconic bird that appears on the app icon and is the first one you’ll see in the beginning levels. Typical. They would have to be […]
The games of Angry Birds and Angry Words are both frustrating and fascinating time drains. Whether you are a wet alcoholic (still drinking) or a dry alcoholic (not drinking or […]
Dealing with angry people is alternately scary, risky, unpredictable and frustrating. So frustrating, In fact, it reminds me of the Angry Birds video game. In September 2010, IGN named Angry […]
When I was 5, my best friend and I got matching tubes of candy lipstick.
Our homes have been battle grounds many an evening. ~ AA p 105 As I stated previously, besides being an alcoholic in recovery, I am a survivor of abuse. Therefore, […]
Lies and deceitful games have nothing to do with the shared reality and richness of intimacy. True intimacy in relationships is reserved for people who are determined to hear and […]
In the previous post, I compared heat in bread making to honest communication in relationships. The yeast could be comparable to love and commitment. Without the right amount of heat, […]
I never made a lot of bread until I got a machine to knead it for me because I have very weak arms. It is not fun to knead bread […]
So when I feel like barking, it alerts me that something is wrong.
If I wanted to stay angry with myself and hostile to those around me, I could have just kept drinking.
At first, I thought of really cutting and accurate remarks that I could make to her in my defense and then I surprised myself by realizing that I don’t want to do that.
I wanted to find some wisdom shared with me by an old Hippie with long blond hair and beard who was from Dubuque, Iowa.