Baby Steps of Step 4 Fears, column 3
If we are unaware of how fear affects our lives, we will continue to let it influence our choices and haunt our thoughts. Ridding myself of most of my fear has been one of the truly miraculous benefits of working the Steps. I’m passionate about helping others escape the claws of fear and find similar freedom. Take a chance…live your life!
What to document
Column 3 assignment: List in column 3 the area of self that is affected by your fear. Regardless of where the fear originated, whether it was something passed down from our family or whether it started with a traumatic event or just surfaced from nowhere, fear imprisons us.
How to document
Self-esteem, Security, Ambitions, Personal Relations or Sex Relations are some of the umbrella areas of our lives that are affected. Keeping it simple is my motto, so I use only the above 5. This is what the original AA groups used, as well.
- keeping me locked into inaction
- tying me up with feeling sorry for myself
- weighing me down with dread
- pouring anxiety into my system
- tiring me out with hyper-vigilance
- What have I never done that I always dreamed of doing?
- What do I repeat that I wish I could stop doing?
- What do I exaggerate or minimize because to tell the truth about it would be too scary?
- What action do I avoid because I dread the opinion of other people?
Why do this?
Fear silently gets a stranglehold in areas of our lives. If it’s fear that is locking us up, we must be rid of it or our lives stagnate. Take a look at someone you respect. Is fear running their life? My guess is… no. Take a chance, live your life!
Examples of documentation
Links to worksheets
Check the Not So Scary Worksheets Page. Here is the printable Not So Scary Fears Worksheet. You can also use a notebook and make your own columns if you prefer. The Fears worksheet comes after the Not So Scary Resentments Worksheet