Step 3: I Can Skip This if I’m a Christian, Right?

The question I should have asked when I dropped into AA was, Is there a difference between step 3 and salvation for a Christian?

Step 3: Part 5 Lessons From The 70s on Willingness

In Step 3: Part 4  I asked how you would define ‘will’ and ‘lives’ in the wording of Step 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the… Read More →

Step 4 Character Defects: Selfish

Selfish? Who…me? Without a doubt. But it took a while to begin recognizing it. I had the idea that selfish meant focusing on what I had or didn’t have. It’s SO much more… Read More →

Is Your God Silent? Are you?

Before I got sober at the age of 55, I was trapped by an ice storm at an abbey near Dubuque, in NE Iowa. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. There are no… Read More →

Step 4: Distinctions Between Selfish and Self-Seeking in AA

The confusion over the words selfish and self-seeking in Step 4 is not new.  It bothers me that Bill W used two words that appear similar. He says, Referring to our list again,… Read More →

Step 3: The Key To Making Decisions

Step 3 is not the action of turning our will and lives over, it’s deciding to do so. Let’s get specific. Which decision making elements do you usually use?

Step 3: Questions and Directions

There is something in me that rebels against familiar authoritarianism. Do I really want someone else to tell me what to think again? I hope not.

Step 3: Whistling In The Dark

Do I miss drinking? Sometimes. I miss it to the extent that I’m still insane. I was not created for self-destruction but alcohol is a one way ticket to that insanity. It waits.