What’s This Spiritual Malady?

Sick of the sprees (alcohol, drugs, food, sex, spending, gambling, etc) and wanting something other than defeating obsessions and thoughts of suicide…

Can I Weep With Those Who Weep?

I’m not loving you if I try to brush aside your tears

What Am I Living For?

If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live…

If You’re Doing Fine, Why Try The 12 Steps?

There are many ways to lose yourself, many different paths promising a sense of euphoria, comfort or peace. They’re usually some form of spree…

Step 1: Dangerous Lesson Learned In Kindergarten

A five-year-old’s birthday party set me on the path of spiritual destruction…

Step 1: How Do I Start?

You don’t have to be an addict or even know one to take the 12 Steps

Whad ya mean….Selfish?

Who knew? Not me, not before doing Step 4.

Whad Ya Mean… Self-Seeking?

Like traveling without any running lights…

My Rebel Thoughts Refuse Captivity

Slowly, it’s clicking into place and taking thoughts captive isn’t such a chore.

A Brain Reboot for the Venomous Virus

I’ve got several phrases that help me.

Mocking Bird-Brain

Knowing my brain acts like a Mockingbird, I have cut down on what I pay attention to.

Get Into The Cartoon!

… a typical Saturday with Loony Toons, the two of us in our footie pajamas eating breakfast as we sat so close we were in the action.

Quiet Space in Bright Sunshine

The title phrase is one attributed to Bill W, founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. His word picture makes me think of sitting by the embers of a driftwood fire on the beach, turning the… Continue reading

This is a test. This is only a test…right?

If this had been an actual emergency…

Baby Stepping Fourth: Sexual Harms Part 2

We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Sexual Harms Part 1

We’re ready for the last part of the 4th Step inventory. We will see that some of the things that we have done caused hurt to ourselves and also to other people. If… Continue reading

Baby Stepping Fourth: Fears Part 4

Fear feeds on dishonesty.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Fears Part 3

Some of us once had great self-confidence, but it didn’t fully solve the fear problem, or any other.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Fears Part 2

Or not… your choice.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Fears Part 1

Fears include the things that make me anxious, the things I dread and those that I worry about.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 7

Finish this, and you’re done with the Not So Scary Resentments Inventory of Step 4.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 6

We’re listing in column 4 the responses that we’re not proud of.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 5

The destination is healing and reaching towards the Sunlight of the Spirit.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 4

We start to separate the action from the person.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 3

We bury our resentments.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 2

Start by listing the people you have resentments against.

Baby Stepping Fourth: Day 1

Using this method, complete your 4th in just 7 days.

Step 10 and the Not So Scary Worksheet Part 2: Henry The VIII

…another opportunity to grow, to become loving and humble like Henry, my dog.

Step 10 and the Not So Scary Worksheet Part 1: Anger is Just the Wrapping

Nearly any day contains prime resentment opportunities.

Clean Sweep

Pick up a broom and give it a whirl!

What Is God’s Will?

I no longer feel I have to ‘prove’ anything to you or to me

Double Overtime

It IS whether you win or lose!

Get Your Feet Off the Wheel, Buddy!

Who’s in the drivers’ seat?

5 Tips for Choosing a Recovery Sponsor

A guide, a mentor, a friend, a BB Nazi… so many choices!

Grandmas and Sponsors

Grandma had a great recipe for bread…


Barney Fife was right.

The 12 Step Workout: Use It or Lose It

We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous and free.

Cupcakes and Sweet Security

A month into Al-Anon I find that I am losing my job.

Not in My Wheelhouse

After cleaning out my wheelhouse I find I’m a little lonely…

Resignation Letter

I have been informed that my ability to perform the duties of my present position at any future time is inadvisable.

Step 1: Obsession and Al-Anon

Need help? TA DA! It was becoming an obsession, this helping habit of mine.

Dear Me,

December 31, 2012 Dear Me, I probably know less about you than some people and more than the casual observer, but I do know a few things: You love to solve problems, to… Continue reading

God As We Understood Him

Thinking, learning, figuring things out with my pea brain…

Little Fists Solution

Little Fists happen when I start to criticize myself.

Step 3: Remodel Me

My most traumatic experience with remodeling isn’t filed in a picture database anywhere …

You Don’t Say (to an addict)

When you are a non-user talking to a substance abuser …

Hashtag Sandy

Just between you and me, I’ve always been a little crazy during and around a full moon….

Step 3: I Swore I’d Never…

Before AA I judged myself by my intentions, while the world was judging me by my actions.

Step 2: Digging From the Quarry of the Past

When I’m digging into the quarry of the past, I’m entering the insanity of mining my history…

Step 1: Shadow Me

The visible me was a lie. The shadow me was reality.